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Wednesday, November 28, 2007
I sent a response.
Hi Randy,
It seems to me that for you it comes down to likability. What would it take for an atheist to be likable to a theist? Could an atheist feel free to talk at all about atheism and still be considered likable? Or does that make the theist uncomfortable and thus make the atheist unlikable. Do people like Ellen Johnson, who is always polite on television, still come off as unlikable simply because she states her views unequivocally?
I agree that some atheists are angry or arrogant or that ubiquitous unlikable. Not to sound like a school yard argument, but so are theists. Why isn't the term for "angry theist"? The reason that atheists are labeled as angry and dismissed is because people don't like having their views challenged.
I see two issues here. One, that an atheist can be classified as angry when he isn't expressing anger. The other is when an atheist expresses anger he is dismissed because he's angry. As if there's no reason to be angry. As if anger can never be used in a positive way.
I could say, "Man, that Keith Olbermann is always ranting on and on. I can't believe those angry Democrats. Their spokesperson is out of control." But would that be fair? Are all Democrats like Keith, all with the same ideology? And is it wrong to be angry in public just because it's unlikable? Does Keith only hurt Democrats because he expresses anger, arrogance, and is, I'm sure, unlikable to many people?
I also agree with your ideas about being persuasive. I dislike confrontation. It makes me uncomfortable. These letters aren't an easy thing for me to write. I'm constantly trying to be nice, to soften anything I say that might be interpreted as impolite. But, sometimes it's good to be angry and passionate. Persuasion is great, but there isn't just one way to achieve a goal. Sometimes passion, even anger, reaches people that persuasion won't.
You may think that Dawkins and Hitchens are doing more harm than good for atheists. But they are good at motivating people to think and feel passionate. They've mainstreamed atheism enough that many people who might not have spoken out, now feel comfortable doing so. Sometimes you can't be nice or likable when you're challenging the status quo.
Thanks for responding,
[OG]
P.S. I should have asked you before, but I posted my first letter and your response on my blog. If you're uncomfortable with this exchange being public, I'll take down your half of the exchange. When I first put it up I didn't think about asking you. I just thought it'd be fair to post your response. But after thinking about it some more I realized that the assumption is that email is private and shouldn't be published without permission.
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And thank you guys for encouraging me. I'm not good at debate because really, I just want to get along. Even friendly debates make me a bit uncomfortable. But I think this has been good for me. I've had friends over the years tell me I needed to be more outspoken (or as a co-worker said, "find your inner bitch") over the years, which was their way of telling me to stop worrying and speak my mind.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007 at 12:56:00 PM CST
Wow, that's a fantastic reply!!! Eloquent and sincere. I hope he takes it well. :D
Wednesday, November 28, 2007 at 6:00:00 PM CST
You go girl!
You go girl!
LOL! OG, you are great. That was a terrific letter. You were strong, but totally non-confrontational. How many times have we said "there's a place for all kinds of debate styles"? OK, then, yours is wonderful.
I hope Randy allows you to use his response. Based on my interaction with him, he'll have no problem whatsoever.
And I LOVE the new look on the blog. Whatever made you think of it? ;)
Wednesday, November 28, 2007 at 7:15:00 PM CST
cl: Thanks! :)
john evo: Thank you too. I'm terrible with compliments. I don't know why, but I feel the need to deflect them. Like if I take a compliment people will think I have a big head or something. It's completely irrational.
Hmm.. I wonder who gave me the idea for the new look...
I've been meaning to find a new template for a while, but I kept putting it off. Thanks for reminding me and putting me back on track.
Wednesday, November 28, 2007 at 10:48:00 PM CST
Excellent response. Your inner bitch is extremely articulate.
Thursday, November 29, 2007 at 1:05:00 AM CST
Like if I take a compliment people will think I have a big head or something.
Tell you what, OG... I'm FINE with compliments. My head is huge already, so who cares? So just "deflect" those compliments over to me. I love the attention.
Thursday, November 29, 2007 at 8:00:00 AM CST
Ditto to what everybody else said. I thought your response was controlled but unequivocal. You let your inner bitch say what she had to say without letting anyone call you an angry atheist either. Kudos!
Thursday, November 29, 2007 at 10:57:00 PM CST
I'm terrible with compliments. I don't know why, but I feel the need to deflect them. Like if I take a compliment people will think I have a big head or something. It's completely irrational.
I have the same problem. Sucks, eh?