tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post6286181701094067792..comments2023-10-18T04:44:08.434-05:00Comments on tales of an ordinary girl: My "Out at Work" PolicyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09429263099197981481noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-1373766128995392552009-03-23T01:27:00.000-05:002009-03-23T01:27:00.000-05:00It looks like your situation is very similar to mi...It looks like your situation is very similar to mine, and, probably that of many atheists. There's no reason for the subject of religion to come up at work, and often it's easier to cooperate better if it doesn't. But then you get a bit of a visibility balance when the devout are wearing their beliefs on their sleeves and the secular aren't -- many people might mistakenly believe that they "don't know an atheist."C. L. Hansonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12698855413639518095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-66915416044205334952009-03-22T10:26:00.000-05:002009-03-22T10:26:00.000-05:00Vistaluna, my parents are a perfect example of tha...Vistaluna, my parents are a perfect example of that. They know their Bible, but they know nothing about Biblical history or textual criticism. They separate the Old Testament from the New and only choose what they want to believe from it. They read it, but they only absorb it through blinders. With formal education they might be able to see something around the blinders.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09429263099197981481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-36905034629265219652009-03-20T20:57:00.000-05:002009-03-20T20:57:00.000-05:00You mentioned that a class in Medeteranian religio...You mentioned that a class in Medeteranian religions helped open your eyes to the nature of religion.<BR/><BR/>I have a working theory that one way to weaken religion is to actually teach people MORE about religion.<BR/><BR/>I knew someone (MANY years ago) who was a devout Christian...in fact I would call him an extreme-Christian. But he studied the New Testament word by word, and he studied history around the time of Jesus, and he studied...and studied...and studied...and eventually he amassed so much knowledge that he realized it was all a myth blow out of proportion.<BR/><BR/>He still considers himself a theist...which I think is fine because at least he sees many of the same things I do and he knows the dangers of organized religions.<BR/><BR/>I had a boss at my first job who went to a Seminary School, and he talked about a kind of disillusionment that many students experienced after years of learning more and more about Christianity.<BR/><BR/>If I was an evil person...I would totally infiltrate a church and pretend I was a Christian and undermine them by teaching people MORE about the history of Christianity. :)Vistalunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17070075970612539409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-52505666867720805262009-03-20T09:29:00.000-05:002009-03-20T09:29:00.000-05:00Evo: I've never had anyone ask me to pray at work....<B>Evo</B>: I've never had anyone ask me to pray at work. I've only had people mention they've prayed for me after a death or sickness in the family.<BR/><BR/><B>Chappy</B>: I think it's also a bit different for you given where you work. I like talking about politics and religion, but I think it's better with people you choose to be with, not people you have to associate with at work. It may be okay 5 out of 10 times, but then there are the times it isn't and it makes getting work accomplished difficult. (I think you agree with that.)<BR/><BR/><B>Vistaluna</B>: Sports are like a religion to some people. ;)<BR/><BR/>You should talk more about the "safe" subjects you have an interest in. I bet people would be more interested than you think.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09429263099197981481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-57153868428662820652009-03-19T23:44:00.000-05:002009-03-19T23:44:00.000-05:00I have a theory that one of the reasons sports are...I have a theory that one of the reasons sports are so popular is that it gives people something SAFE to talk about in a work or social setting.<BR/><BR/>The problem is I don't like sports. I have deep interests in lots of "safe" subjects...just none that anybody (besides me) likes to talk about. :)<BR/><BR/>I've successfully avoided telling most people I'm an Atheist at work...but if someone really pushes me with their dogma...I do have a limit. Maybe someday I'll be brave enough, or confident enough, or just mad enough to tell everyone. But I'm not there yet.Vistalunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17070075970612539409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-15297340291158557082009-03-19T20:14:00.000-05:002009-03-19T20:14:00.000-05:00As you know, I work for a Christian organization. ...As you know, I work for a Christian organization. When I started there, everyone knew I was a Christian, which I was at the time. Now, work is - interesting. Sometimes frustrating. <BR/><BR/>I've come out to one co-worker who is not a Christian. I know, big deal, coming out to the one person I know agrees with me. The thing is, she knows she can openly express her feelings about religion to me and I won't hassle her. In our workplace, it's sometimes nice to have someone safe to vent to. I don't care if she swears and vice versa. Big deal, right? It is in our place - according to the employee manual, swearing is a termination offense. [Ex wouldn't last five minutes there :)]<BR/><BR/>If you read <A HREF="http://thechapel.wordpress.com/2009/03/18/how-religion-ruins-relationships/" REL="nofollow">my latest post</A>, about Max, you may wonder if I came out to him. No, I didn't. I dropped a couple of hints during our conversation, things like, "don't let the religious talk get to you," but that was all. Max said he's not interested in talking about religion, so I'm not going to push him there. Others are doing enough of that already.<BR/><BR/>Aside from the quirky circumstances of my work life, I generally agree with the common wisdom that says people should avoid talking about religion and politics at work. I avoid both of those topics as much as possible. It's easier to steer clear of politics than religion in my workplace, but I can generally get by with a fairly low level of exposure to religious idiocy from day to day. You can be sure that I'm not raising the issue.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-7774632828773178812009-03-19T20:09:00.000-05:002009-03-19T20:09:00.000-05:00Me in every situation of life:Hey John, we're all ...Me in every situation of life:<BR/><BR/>Hey John, we're all going to get together and pray for Larry. Want to join in?<BR/><BR/>"No. I'm an atheist".John Evohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10868904051881865159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-34210517567066315322009-03-19T08:10:00.000-05:002009-03-19T08:10:00.000-05:00Ex: I guess then I feel the same way, except I'm n...<B>Ex</B>: I guess then I feel the same way, except I'm not as vocal as you are. But is that a surprise? :)<BR/><BR/><B>Mamacita</B>: I can understand when your profession is under such circumstances. And I doubt it would bother you to observe Jewish, Hindu, or any other tradition as part of a ceremony you were there to record. I doubt you'd be happy with proselytizing, but that's another story entirely.<BR/><BR/><B>Ridger</B>: I think you're on to something there.<BR/><BR/><B>Toniya</B>: It sounds like you have a supporting husband. You should check in with <A HREF="http://thechapel.wordpress.com/" REL="nofollow">An Apostate's Chapel</A> to see someone in similar circumstances as you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09429263099197981481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-31641424455257033912009-03-18T20:11:00.000-05:002009-03-18T20:11:00.000-05:00Ooh, that is a tough one. I felt so very brave ju...Ooh, that is a tough one. I felt so very brave just putting the "A" on my blog sidebar. Of course, unless you click on it you wouldn't know what it stands for.<BR/><BR/>I haven't put any atheistic posts up. I'm still afraid. Silly, I guess. But both my parents and Paul's parents have no real idea - and they're <I>very</I> Christian. (My father in law is even a Gideon leader) And we're not ready to have that conversation. And they read the blog. Although Paul and I have had some really fun conversations about 'coming out'.<BR/><BR/>Being in health care, there are very few openly atheistic people. At my workplace, it just seems best to keep it to myself...<BR/><BR/>Whoa, way more than you really wanted to know!Tonyiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14526264911177862213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-81733766898514328202009-03-18T18:59:00.000-05:002009-03-18T18:59:00.000-05:00It doesn't come up much, but I did once say to som...It doesn't come up much, but I did once say to someone - who was asking everyone to put up a prayer for someone's sick kid - if an atheist could express good wishes. Her response? "Gosh yes! I didn't think!" People know.<BR/><BR/>In my old office it was actually worse to identify as a progressive!!!The Ridger, FCDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01538111197270563075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-78615307754296553422009-03-18T18:29:00.000-05:002009-03-18T18:29:00.000-05:00My job photographing weddings for people who are o...My job photographing weddings for people who are often religious requires me being a bit delicate. That's why religion is not a subject I touch on my personal blog a lot...because I know that both my photography blog and my personal blog are intertwined...and a lot of my clients read both.<BR/><BR/>If you go back in the archives it's pretty easy to figure out that I don't love organized religion but that I do have some kind (however undefined) of belief in a greater good, karma, power, whatever you want to call it. <BR/><BR/>I don't want to offend any of my clients who are religious, and at their wedding if they want me to bow my head while they pray, I will do so happily (or take pictures very VERY quietly). But, should the subject come up, I'm not going to pretend that I'm religious just because I happen to be photographing a religious wedding.<BR/><BR/>And I guess that would be "at work" for me, haha!Mamacita Chilenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00591882075295087687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21863196.post-89971265020815833042009-03-18T16:43:00.000-05:002009-03-18T16:43:00.000-05:00My "out" policy, at work, at play, anywhere: Alway...My "out" policy, at work, at play, anywhere: Always -- <B>IF</B> the subject of religion comes up. If it doesn't, I'm not going to be the one to toss it into the conversational mix.The Exterminatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14452054124550486048noreply@blogger.com